Deciphering Success – What Does it Mean For You?

What is success to YOU?

This question existed for a long time. Today, people compare themselves by someone else’s rules. Far too often, people spend their time running on someone else’s treadmill, trying to meet unrealistic agendas or expectations.

Success is Not a Dart Game

Many times, my new coaching clients say they want success, but they don’t know what it looks like. They’ve spent their life searching for something that looks like a dart game at a carnival booth. They hope they’ll hit the right balloon with a hidden message inside that’s just for them.

Dart after dart gets tossed, and finally they hit a balloon. When the balloon bursts, the little paper message inside flies away. Their prize is a little stuffed frog and they realize that’s not the success they wanted. Disappointed, they run to another booth, looking for the shiniest thing that attracts their attention.

This analogy mirrors the way many people approach success. They’re constantly on the move, grasping at whatever fleeting notion society defines as “successful.” However, they seldom examine what success means to them personally.

Discovering Your Own Definition of Success

Personal success is a unique journey that differs for each individual. Success is not a one-size-fits-all concept. If it was, you’d spend all your time trying to be someone else and not the unique person you are.

Some might equate success with wealth and financial prosperity. To others, it could be the value of making a meaningful difference in the lives of others.

• What is success to you and why does it matter?
• If you reached a place in life that resonates with you, what would that look like?

Personally, for me, success makes life happier and comfortable, but also offers something to help others in the world. If all I wanted was happy and comfortable, I’d sit in my recliner with a Butterfinger candy bar and I’d call it done.

Yet, without offering something that makes life better for others, to me, that’s unsuccessful.

When working with new coaching clients, it’s often a personal discovery that someone else’s predefined rules do not define successful living for them. In our sessions, we first do the important confidence work so they understand and believe they are worthy of success.

While a sad thing, most new clients already can create the life they want, but never believed they could. Once past that, they have the freedom to consider their life in healthy ways that resonate within themselves.

Taking Action

Life is a vapor, and we need to decide quickly what success will be for us. When a person stalls, someone else isn’t and they are creating a good life for themself. A person can think about success for a long time and get nowhere because their thinking never came with action.

The only action in that scenario is the clock… tick… tick…tick.

Often, when discussing success, the outcome is portrayed as financial wealth. For others, it is creating a better life for the underprivileged. I believe it can be both. Living well allows you more options to help.

There’s a lot of internal satisfaction when we’ve created the means to change lives. This type of success brings a sense of joy that surpasses the pleasures of material possessions.

If living a successful life seems foreign to you, or you believe that wealth is for someone else and not you, then we should talk.

How would you like to shed the beliefs that held you back so you can create the success you want?

About the Author

Anthony M. Davis is a Certified Leadership, Success and Stress Coach. He is a clinically trained Board Certified Hypnotherapist.

He has earned a national reputation for his Transformative Life Centering work with clients from across the nation. His unique approach helps clients remove underlying fears and triggers, and then, through coaching, helps them pursue and accomplish life and career goals.

He provides Coaching and Hypnotherapy sessions remotely through Zoom. If you have challenges and are ready to move past them, Contact him Here to create the life change you desire.